| If there
is a ever a question whether Palmistry is a science the competent palmist will
always find the test of matrimony as the best ground on which he can meet all
challenges and scrutinies most satisfactory and effectively. The rules of
applied palmistry can stand all analysis, and the universal applicability of
its laws can be established effectively while predicting marriage
compatibility. |
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| Marriage
is perhaps the most important social institution and yet it is one of the
greatest of social problems. According to Havelock Ellis. marriage is not only
a contract in the true sense, but in the only sense in which it is a contract,
it is a contract of an exceedingly bad kind. Most important factors
constituting the sound foundation of a happy married life are: |
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| (1). Right
choice of partner ; |
| (2). A
good psychological attitude on the part of the partners, both to the world in
general, and towards each other; &
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| (3). A
vigorous and harmonious sex life.
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| A
marriage is as successful as the couple are adjusted to each other.
Compatibility in marriage is the most important common factor for happiness. It
has become a fashionable belief among the educated people that sex education
makes for sexual compatibility in marriage. But many highly educated persons
like doctors, biologists, and nurses have sexual difficulties despite their
knowledge, and many uneducated labourers have quite satisfactory sex life
despite their ignorance. If there is a basic psychological conflict between the
two partners, sex education can not be of much help. Sex is undoubtly the
foundation of love, but sex alone can never sustain love. Loving is a ceative
act and left entirely to chance, It cannot sufficiently grow. |
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| In
examining marriage compatibility from hand-reading start with the skin texture.
The surface examination of the skin texture is made by the holding the hand
palm downwards and feeling the back of the hand by thumb. The skin texture may
either be soft, or normal, or coarse. The soft texture indicates developed
aesthetic sense, and the coarse skin betrays the lack of it. It must be
remembered that soft skin is no guarantee for high morals and the coarse skin,
by no means an indication of low morals. |
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next important point to note is the thickness of the hand and its consistency.
The thickness of the hand indicates the strength of emotional factors ; the
feeling capacity is judged from this thickness. Generally speaking, a man with
thick hands has better chances of making marriages successful than a man with
thin hands. The man with thin hand may lack the warmth of heart, his relational
tendencies accentuate beyond limits, and he will be cold and excessively
calculative even in matters of love. But a woman with thick hands may ba a
difficult proposition in the case of a great number of males. She may
subordinate her reasons to her emotions and the man may find it difficult to
cope with her emotional demands.
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| Thickness
or thinness of hand is rather very closely connected with its consistency.
Consistency is judged by the holding the hand tightly by both the hands and
pressing the palm by the thumbs at various palces in order to judge the
resistance of the hand muscles. The consistency of the hand may broadly be
divided into three types : hard, elastic and soft. |
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| Consistency
is hard when the hand muscles do not yield to thumb pressure and to be cmoposed
of hard massive substance . This type of consistency always betrays a hard,
unbending, premitive type of emotional quality. Elastic consistency is that in
which the muscles when pressed offer somewhat less resistance. When this type
of consistency is found, it should be treated as a good indication in any hand.
When the hand muscles offer little or almost no resistance, the consistency is
known to be soft. The flabby consistency, in which the substance of the muscles
can be squeezed, is the extreme variety of soft consistency. This type of
consistency betrays indolence and accentuated sensuousness. |
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| Thumb
formation tells us quite a bit about the quality of love one is likely to
possess. Remembering that absolute monogamy or polugamy is not to be found in
human beings, much useful knowledge about this aspect can be obtained from the
thumb. The strong thumb means strong sentimental attributes. Sentimental
attributes should not be confused with emotional attributes. A person with a
strong sentimental attribute is one whose love is composed of a number of
strong emotive motives directed and concentrated towards one individual. This
person will love a woman not merely for sex attraction, but his love will be
composed of a number of diverse factors. His sexual and other emotional impules
will be oriented towards the objects of his love. With a weak thumb, the
position will be otherwise.
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| A
well shaped thumb speaks of polish and decency in love making. With a coarse
thumb, the motive will be sex in its instinctive, coarse form.
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| If
this thumb is supple, that is, if it is a flexible over the joint, it indicates
shifting sentiments. Such persons are generous in love and give more for small
returns in love. They are splendid lovers--, so long they love. The trouble
with them is that they find it difficult to keep their sentiments fixed on one
subject for a long period. |
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| Stiff
thumb promises better stability and constancy in love and sentiments. A heavy
nail phalange makes the person rather a bully particularly on occasions of
emotional upsets. If the second phalange is waisted, it betokens tactful
foresight which shapes behaviour in a well-defined pettern. |
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| Should
the person with a supple thumb be avoided in matrimony? Not at all. Thumb
formation certainly indicates monogamic and polygamic aptitutes in persons, but
while drawing conclusions one must remember that both these conditions differ
not in kind but in degree. I submit that the approach to monogamous or
polygamous dispositions as good or evil is not correct. They are two different
ways of emotional expression. Barring the pronounced cases, which can easily be
detected from the hand traits in general and from the thumb formation in
particular, monogamy and polygamy depend much on the circumstances and
environments. |
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| We
must be able to appreciate the complex traits of personality and should be able
to detect the relative distinctions. A man of shifting sentiments may or may
not be mech sensual, but the difference in his psychological composition from
the former type lies in the fact that his sentiments and love for a woman tend
to shift rather quickly and easily. A person with a strong well shaped stiff
thumb may have a number of sexual affairs depending on the nature and
circumstances of his life, but he will never give others the same or simlar
position in his heart which he gives to his beloved. On the other hand, supple
thumb denotes the love for variety and also an easy genorous disposition which
is ever prepared to give and take confidence quite easily. Such a type of
person should be allow to develop new interests. If his desire for variety is
thus fed, he will remain faithful; and he will be better person to live with in
daily routine than the one with a strong, stiff thumb. |
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shape and build of the fingers is also important. If the fingers are slender
and flexible over the joints, it is a very positive indication of lack of
restrictive control over the instinctive desires. In a woman's hand, such
fingers with a weak supple thumb bespeak of a nervy person predisposed to
polygamy. If the Head and Life are also widely seperated at the begining, the
useful inhibitive female tendencies are also lacking. Add to this, a jutting
little finger, we have a picture of a woman of promiscuous disposition
resenting any restricitive control whatsoever.
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| The
Girdle of Venus indicates sensitivity in the emotional plane. The bumps on the
finger tips also indicate sensitivity on the intellectual plane which may
sometime find expression in festidiousness. If the hand is filled with numerous
thin lines going on all directions, it indicates nervous sesitivity. The Via
Lasciva betrays marked love for excitement. If the main lines of the hand are
thin and well traced, it is an indication of moment refinement. |
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| If
the heart line is widely curved, it indicates masculine directional trends
emotions. If the heart line is straight, it shows feminine directional
expressions of emotions. The term masculine signifies a direct, physical
approach. The straight type of heart line shows passiveness in approach and
fastidiousness. Mental stimulation is a prerequisite to physical stimulation.
This does not mean that the person with a curve type of heart line has no
aesthetic discrimination, that physical stimulation is all that he or she cares
for, and that the person will recieve mental satisfaction from anyone who is
capable of giving physical stimulation. Nothing of this sort is implied. The
curving of heart line has nothing to do with morality, and character. |
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formation of the heart line should be judged in relation to the head line. If
the head line is long and curves down deep into the Mount of Luna. It indicates
a basic feminine, abstract and romantic mind. If this type of heart line
associated with a straight type of heart line, physical approach without mental
preparation will be very much repugnant to such persons. It will be difficult
to bring this person down to facts life from the romantic ideas of love and
sex. |
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| If
the Head line is straight, not very long and Heart line is curved, the person
seldom loses sight of practical matters in romance. If the Head line is rather
short and straight, you can be sure that the person's concept of beauty and
appreciation of the beautiful is very much limited to the physical attributes.
Such a man will insist that his wife must be beautiful first and everything
afterwards. This is just a general deduction. It persupposes some desire for
beautiful things, and a strong, masculine sexual urge. These are easily
discernible from hand traits. If the hand is coarse and betrays lack of any
aesthetic appreciation, the person will not care for a beautiful wife, but will
insist that his wife should be quite useful in material life. Such persons will
not hesitate to use their wives to achieve things in the material field. |
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| Some
of the answers to the general matrimonial problems will be found in the sex
factor. Sex is the foundation of marriage. It is very necessary that the sexual
demands of the partners do not vary too much. Sexual demands of men and women
can never be alike. At best thet can be complimentary. |
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| If the
hands of a man are pronouncedly thick, the Mount of Venus is well developed.
the lifeline traces a wide curve round the Mount of Venus, we can immediately
visualise that the sexual urges if the man must be vigorous and his demands for
sexual satisfaction squarely met by his partner before she can expect to
receive adjustments on his part. The mode and manner of the sexual satisfaction
varies from time to time, because he can not be reconciled if his partner
insists on conventional time and postures. |
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| But the sexual
desires of woman are strongly inhibited by social mores. Young women rarely
consider sex outside a romantic framework. Very few normal women can derive
pleasure from sex act if no feeling of love is associated with it. Often the
man with thick hands will think of sex without associating it with any feelings
of love. |
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| If the hands of
women proposed to be married to the above type of a man, are rather thin, the
mounts are flat, the lifeline in both the hands is narrowly traced thereby
confining the Mount of Venus to a rather narrow space, we have a woman whose
feelings and demands for sexual satisfaction are not the prime factors in her
psychological make-up. She can neither be quickly stimulated for the act, nor
can she regard sexual satisfaction as a measure of her mental satisfaction.
With this type of woman, sexual compatibility is definitely a result and not
the cause of emotional compatibility. |
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| But the man
whose sexual demands are strong will assert them in no uncertain manner. Sexual
compatibility will be the cause and not the effect of the emotional
compatibility if his case. He will take her attitute for coldness in love and a
predisposition to frigidity. |
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| Suppose the skin
texture of the hands of the man is rather coarse and that of the woman, soft.
The passions of this man will sleak more direct channels of expression, where
as the woman will be refined and insist on a more harmonious and aesthetic
atmosphere before she can prepare herself to surrender. His approach will be
crude and she will feel disgusted at the scant respect shown to her delicacy of
mind. |
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| If the skin
texture of the hand is soft, it will modify his vigorous sexual demands to a
great extent, and sublimate it, and he will be much more considerate for the
feelings of his woman. |
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These rules of
hand reading can be very usefully applied to predict marriage compatibility.
Anyone can successfully make use of these rules, but following facts must be
kept in view :
| (1).
Marriage compatibility based on sexual and emotional compatibility is primarily
a psychological subject. Never can be successful in predicting these matters
without being familiar with the psychological principles involved. A fair
knowledge of psychological from standard textbooks is an absolute necessity : |
| (2). One
must appreciate that between any two extreme indications of a particular hand
trait, numerous variations in degree are found, and hence our conclusions must
be arrived at judiciously in keeping with the degree of variation. For
instance, a hand may be very thin, but the degrees of actual variation from
person to person may extend over a wide range, none of which being exactly
alike. |
| (3).
Psychological traits are never judged facultywise. For the purpose of academic
explanation and study, these traits are individualised, classified and
explained in particularised contexts. Actually, all these traits act, interact,
and modify one another in such a way that you may recognise any particular
trait in any person in its classical and typical form. Ability, and competence
to synthesise properly various indications of predispositions and to make a
correst assessment of the personality as a whole thereform, must be acquired
through patience, understanding, experience, study, and practice, before anyone
attempts seroiusly to predict marriage compatibility by judging personality
compatibility. |
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